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Who Really Hires a Sex Worker? (Hint: It’s Not Who You Think)
Challenging the Stereotype When people picture someone who hires a sex worker, they often imagine a sad, lonely man with poor hygiene and no charm. An incel living in his mom’s basement. They imagine someone who “can’t get any” through traditional means. You’ve probably seen that stereotype played for laughs or pity in movies and…
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Avoiding Scams Online and Why I ONLY Use Adult Platforms.
Let’s Talk About Scammers (And How to Keep Yourself Safe) There’s a guy in my TikTok comments right now who’s furious. He’s been scammed. Misled. He insists that he and I have been texting and that he paid for a meet-up, to which I never showed. But here’s the thing – I don’t offer meet-ups,…
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Is Being a Cuck Inherently Humiliating?
Exploring the Many Flavors of Cuckolding When people hear the word cuck, they almost always picture the same thing: a man watching helplessly while someone else ravishes his wife. They imagine shame, degradation, and a sense of failure. They toss the word cuck around as an insult, a punchline, a shorthand for being emasculated. But…
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Kinky Red Flags: Why Saying You’re “Into Everything” and Have “No Limits” Aren’t the Answers You Think They Are
When I meet new clients, a big part of the initial conversation is getting a sense of what they’re looking for, their boundaries, and their desires. Two of the most common (and problematic) phrases I hear are: “I’m into everything” and “I have no limits.” You might think these responses make you seem adventurous or…
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Service Kink: Authentic Power Exchange vs Pay-to-Play
In my work as an adult service provider, I find two distinct types of ‘submissives’: those genuinely seeking authentic submission and those simply seeking specific kink-based services. Both are valid, but they’re fundamentally different dynamics. If you’re contacting me and immediately saying, “Hello Mistress,” without even an introduction, it tells me you’re likely looking for…
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How to Approach an Online Sex Worker
Simple Etiquette Rules You Should Know If you’re new to connecting with SWers—or even if you’re not—this guide will help you avoid common mistakes and start off on the right foot. Time is valuable, boundaries are essential, and respect goes a long way. Here’s how to approach an online sex worker and make a good…