Burnout, Arousal, and a Family Legacy
What Drew Me to Sex Work
In late 2022, I found myself standing at a crossroads: one foot in burnout, the other inching toward something… unexpected.
I had run my own business for years, offering freelance and contract admin support. It paid the bills. I was proud of it. But somewhere along the way, the spark was gone. I was bored, unchallenged, and creatively drained. Most of my daily work was entry-level, repetitive, and (if I’m honest) soul-sucking.
At the same time, something else was happening: a sexual awakening I never saw coming.
From Burnout to Bedroom Revelations
For most of my adult life, sex felt… fine. Nothing to write home about. A little underwhelming, maybe even forgettable.
Then I met someone who flipped the script.
He was attentive, curious, and genuinely invested in MY pleasure, not just his own. For the first time, I felt fully turned on, fully wanted, and fully there in my own body. And once I got a taste of that kind of connection, it was like opening floodgates.
Suddenly, I was ravenous. Not just for sex, but for exploration. I started experimenting with kink. I had multiple lovers. I flirted with fantasies I’d never dared name before.
I was waking up and coming alive.
Around that time, a few people suggested I try online sex work. It seemed like a strange leap, but the more I thought about it, the more it made sense.
It checked every box:
✔ Something I could do from home
✔ Flexible around my parenting schedule
✔ A chance to explore my newly awakened sexuality
✔ A way to make good money while staying creative
Honestly? It felt like an itch worth scratching.
Cam Girl Dreams, Phone Sex Reality
Initially, I had my sights set on token based camming. I spent two solid months researching livestream platforms, watching tutorials, building out my tip menus.
And when I finally went live?
I HATED it. It didn’t feel like me.
So I pivoted.
I experimented with different styles: custom content, Skype shows, sexting, and eventually phone sex. At first, the phone felt like a means to an end. I knew that being new to the industry, I should take any opportunities for income and experience.
But then something unexpected happened: I started to really enjoy it.
One-on-one phone interactions brought out something different in me. There was more room for intimacy, for conversation, for story. It felt less like a performance and more like a collaboration. Sometimes sensual, sometimes silly, sometimes deep.
I still enjoy doing cam-to-cam sessions, but the phone has grown on me a lot – and some days, I prefer it!
What Keeps Me Coming Back
Two years in, and I’m still surprised by how much I enjoy this job. Here are just a few reasons why I stay:
- It’s more than just sex
I’m not just a fantasy dispenser. I’m a confidante, a sounding board, a safe space. Some of my favorite calls have nothing to do with orgasms and everything to do with connection. - Creative expression
I always thought I’d be a novelist one day. But ADHD made long projects hard to finish. Adult content lets me scratch that creative itch in a way that’s fast, flexible, and fun. - People’s stories fascinate me
The fantasies, the confessions, the curiosity. I never get tired of hearing what turns people on or what they’re struggling to name out loud. - Positive reinforcement
Okay, I’ll say it: being told how hot and sexy I am never gets old.
A Family Business (Yes, Really)
There’s one other piece of this story I haven’t shared yet: my mom is a sex worker too.
She didn’t enter the industry until I was well into adulthood, but when she did, she was upfront about it. No shame. No secrets. Just honesty.
She told me she liked her work. That it paid well. That she felt empowered doing it.
And when I mentioned that I was thinking of giving it a try? She was completely on board.
Because of her, I was already aware of the stigma, and already equipped to handle it. I knew the risks, but I also knew the rewards. And maybe most importantly, I never felt like I had to hide.
Final Thoughts: More Than I Ever Expected
If you’d told me ten years ago that I’d end up doing phone sex and custom kink content for a living, I would’ve laughed.
But here I am, doing work that challenges me, excites me, and lets me connect with people in intimate, unexpected ways.
Sex work isn’t only about nudity or fantasy. For me, it’s been about finding my voice, reclaiming my body, and rediscovering my creativity.
And I wouldn’t trade that for anything.
Let’s Keep It Real
Have you ever made a big career pivot? Or had a sexual awakening that changed everything?
Leave a comment or message me—I’d love to hear your story.
And if you’re curious about my work, explore more posts or check out my Where to Find Me page.
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