Introduction
When I first started working in online sex work, I thought I had a decent idea of what to expect: sexy chats, a lot of masturbation, maybe the occasional awkward client. But the truth? I had no idea what I was walking into.
This job has surprised me in the best and weirdest ways. It’s pushed my assumptions, stretched my comfort zone, and revealed parts of myself I didn’t even know existed. Here are five things that genuinely caught me by surprise when I entered the world of online intimacy.
1. How Many Submissive Men There Are
I used to think most men naturally leaned dominant… or at least pretended to. That’s what we’ve all seen in the media, and it’s what I often saw in dating apps or real-life encounters. But when I started working online, I was stunned by how many men were craving the opposite—to be guided, to serve, to submit.
Maybe it’s because online spaces give people the freedom to explore without fear of judgment. Or, likely, I was letting my unconscious bias make the assumptions. Either way, submissive men are not just out there, they’re everywhere. They’re quietly craving connection, control, and care in ways that don’t always get celebrated in mainstream culture.
And honestly? It’s made me appreciate submission in a whole new light. It’s vulnerability, trust, and an incredibly beautiful kind of strength.
2. How Much Guys Love Cock
Okay, I need to say it: y’all are obsessed.
I’ve always believed that sexuality is a spectrum and that most people, if they’re honest, have at least thought about something a little gay at some point. But I was still surprised by just how many men are curious about (or deeply into) other men’s bodies… and especially cock.
Some want to talk about it. Others want to suck it. Some want to be spit-roasted between two. Some just want to hear me describe it in detail. And I’m not judging! Quite the opposite. I love being a safe space for those conversations.
There’s something really special about being the first person someone confides in about those fantasies. I get to say, “Hey, it’s cool! You’re not weird. This is totally okay.” And often, that permission alone is enough to bring someone to tears – or to orgasm. Sometimes both.
3. How Hot Crossdressing Is
Before this job, if you’d asked me whether I was into a guy in panties, I probably would’ve laughed and said “Nope!” I mean, sure, I’d been to drag shows. I could appreciate the artistry, the beauty. But I never thought of it as hot.
And then I my feminization listing took off.
Seeing a man step into lingerie, shy and blushing, waiting for my reaction… something just clicked. I loved it. I loved telling him how gorgeous he looked, making him twirl for me, coaching him into that sexy, soft energy.
It’s like being your hype girl and your domme all at once. The mix of play, vulnerability, and transformation is SO HOT. Now, it’s one of my favorite kinds of sessions to offer. I never saw that coming, but I’m so glad I found it.
4. How Little I Actually Masturbate
I thought I’d be cumming all the time. Truly.
My original plan was to be a cam girl: tokens for tips, toys on standby, constantly on the verge of an orgasm. And while I did try token-based camming briefly, it just didn’t feel right for me. I pivoted to one-on-one interactions, expecting that most sessions would still be mutual masturbation.
But in reality? They’re not. Most of my work is about you. It’s about building a scene, creating atmosphere, teasing out your desires. I’m guiding, narrating, directing… not necessarily touching myself (unless requested, of course).
While I certainly don’t mind being invited to participate in playing, I find it just as exciting and stimulating to guide and watch you. Because my arousal often comes from the connection, the control, and the creativity not from physical touch.
5. How Rewarding This Work Is
I know this sounds like the kind of thing you say to make your job sound noble, but I mean it. Deeply.
Yes, making someone cum is satisfying. But what stays with me are the other moments: the confessions, the laughter, the unexpected depth of conversation. I’ve had clients open up about grief, loneliness, shame, and joy. I’ve heard things people haven’t told anyone else. And they’ve told me because they trust me.
There’s a tenderness to this work that I didn’t expect. A realness. And on the days when I feel like I made someone feel seen, soothed, or simply less alone…. those are the days that remind me why I do this.
Want more behind-the-scenes insights?
I’ve got plenty more stories—some silly, some sweet, some just plain surprising. If you liked this peek behind the curtain, you might enjoy reading about how I got started or checking out my kink compatibility list.
And if something in this post resonated with you? Leave a comment. Or better yet, send me a message—I’d love to hear what surprised you the most.
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